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It may take some time to respond as I am getting thousands of messages. I try to respond to each of them myself, though, I may miss a few. I will get to your message as quickly as I can. Till then stay happy. Mo????

2017-12-12T09:33:01+00:00

33 Comments

  1. Katie Stringham April 15, 2018 at 12:21 pm - Reply

    I need to tel you thank you for writing this book Mo. I grew up in a religion that taught me they had the ultimate “truth.” They told me what to believe and who to become. Imagine how lost I felt when their “truth” was not my own. I’ve struggled to find meaning in life that made sense to me. Your book has become a guide to helping me find my truth. Through your humble, kind, and loving words I have found peace. I cannot thank you enough for sharing your beautiful story. In my perfect world I’d love to meet you and your family and have you all over for dinner at my house! Thank you so much.

  2. Jed Diamond April 15, 2018 at 1:33 am - Reply

    I was moved to tears hearing your story and the commitment you made to your son. I made a similar commitment to my first son when he was born. I vowed to be a different kind of father than my father was able to be for me and do everything I could to bring about a world where men, women, and children can achieve true happiness. I hope we all can work together to fulfill our 10X commitment and make the world a better place for everyone. I’m with you. I have a new book (my 15th) coming out in June about healing the father wound that undermines the joy of so many.

  3. Sandra Breen April 11, 2018 at 10:50 am - Reply

    Morning Mo from over here in the UK.

    I would like to THANK YOU for your creation of the book Solve for Happy, I am totally in the same head space as you, I have been researching for the past 10yrs the truth about being HAPPY and your book brings it all together for me I totally get it, you make it all make sense in a tool kit kind of way that can be adapted to everyday life. On my search for happiness through difficult events in my life, as you say they really can become the lessons for your happiness. My quest for becoming better equipped to deal with life I have trained as a master NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) trainer and I feel this has supported me on my journey to HAPPINESS and I use techniques everyday with people all around me to help them better understand how simple it can be to be happy if only they let go off past and present pressures of life, as you say live for the moment that’s all we have and that really is the key to true HAPPINESS. I would love to help you on your quest to reaching out to people of the world and better prepare them to finding HAPPINESS.

    Love & Light Sandra

  4. Veeta Wittemann April 7, 2018 at 8:11 am - Reply

    Dear Mo and Solve for Happy community.
    Is it possible to create a happy life and a good world as long we don´t understand the workings of our human nature?
    It is we, the people, our actions in our daily life whiches create the world.
    Should we not know more about us?
    We are convinced that we have to understand to workings of our human nature more detailed in order to overcome our blind survival mode.
    The results of 25 years of basic research, working with subpersonalities and inner diversity, can deliver new answers to crucial questions like:
    Who are we? Why is it so difficult to live together? Why are we destroying the world even when we try to do good?
    May these fresh insights into the structure of our human nature inspire you and your community.
    Sincerely yours, Veeta Wittemann, Sweden

  5. David Lam April 5, 2018 at 11:24 pm - Reply

    Hi Mo,
    just finished the last few pages at the end of your book, including the page you thanked people for helping you during those early days writing it. Honestly, I did not really finish it from beginning to end. I meant to and did try to but until now my mind and life are sucking sad messy. Right now still having and holding your book in my hands, I feel Happy, hope this will last, I hope to make this feeling last. It is much better than feeling depressed, angry, hopeless and go back and forth reasoning why I should live another day… Thank you very much for sharing. Promise to pray for Ali that his wish will come true. And pray that somehow I will have the same peace and happiness that he had. Mo., Humanity – onebillionhappy = a lot of people left. Please, aim higher, instead of the moon, please aim higher for the star. Please take your mission to all as many as possible. Including the ones who are neither rich nor poor; who, like myself do not know or opportunity to know your name, your book, your story. Until one day… And for now, I will go pick up my daughter and we will go to market, happy time…

  6. Ruth E. Freeman, LCSW April 3, 2018 at 1:15 pm - Reply

    Mo – I heard you say that you are more likely to respond if I keep this to 4 lines:

    1. My mission for the past 30+ years has been to compassionately deliver evidence based parenting education to eliminate aggression visited upon children in their homes and your message speaks directly to my heart.
    2. I am building a collaboration of seasoned, wise teachers called Peace At Home Parenting to share messages from meaningful research and amazing thinkers like yourself through in person and online parenting classes to well over 1000 parents annually (and growing).
    3. When parents recognize the barrier of expectations and train their brains to see the positive, children are blessed and can grow to be themselves and thrive.
    4. Please consider telling me any ways we can work together to best integrate your celebration of your beloved son Ali into our work for families and create a Peace At Home Parenting moonshot worthy of your vision.

    Thank you.

  7. Dana March 27, 2018 at 6:19 pm - Reply

    Mo-

    I am reading your book, Solve for Happy, right now and it is changing my life! Over the past few days I’ve been handling things in my life that used to really get me down in a whole different way. I feel an inner peace that I’ve never felt…ever. I just wanted to say thank you so much for writing this book. Thank you! ❤ ❤ ❤

    I have joined your movement and want to tell everyone about this way of living!!!

  8. Matthew March 23, 2018 at 4:59 pm - Reply

    Mo, there are countless occasions in any persons life where someone who they dont know, who they never come across again, but have a butterfly effect on the rest of someones life.
    I suffered from a horrible case of depression last year. Like yourself, i am an engineer, from the middle east, ended up in finance, with the world at my feet and i still fell.
    Maybe the similarities there are exactly why i ended up searching for a cure and i came across your story. You may never know the countless lives you changed, i have no idea if i end up saving lives myself, all down to the changes i made, including lessons learnt from you to reset.
    Thank you for everything, and i can assure you, my whole family would say the same for bringing me back to myself. “Fun isnt equal to Happiness”

  9. Thank you for publishing this awesome article. I’m a long time
    reader but I’ve never been compelled to leave a comment.
    I subscribed to your blog and shared this on my Facebook. Thanks again for a
    great article!

  10. Ross Hill March 16, 2018 at 5:42 pm - Reply

    Dear Mo,
    I came to find out about your book through Tim Ferris, after reading his intro I knew I needed to get the book which I did right away. What I was unaware of until reading the back of the book is that we both belong to the same dreaded club, the loss of a son. Austin was 19 when he passed on Nov 22, 2015 due to heart failure. Similar to you we decided that we needed to do something to help make the world a better place in his honor. So we came up with the Feet in the Forest charity which currently is a Golf Tournament to raise funds to support local charities to help less fortunate youth experience the power of the outdoors the way Austin did. I am so excited to start reading Solve for Happy and understand your thoughts and ideas, I plan to do nothing else this weekend. Thank you so much in advance!

  11. Nad March 10, 2018 at 3:51 pm - Reply

    This is very well-done Mo ! thank you

  12. San van Thiel March 3, 2018 at 4:43 pm - Reply

    Dear Mo and family, thanks for the amazing ideas you shared with the world. I will take them with me in my heart, my life and my work. San van Thiel

  13. Rubèn February 16, 2018 at 3:56 pm - Reply

    Dear Mo,
    I didn’t find the book translated to Catalan language. I don’t know if somebody is about to do it or if I could contribute in some way.

  14. Hubert Cornelis February 15, 2018 at 8:42 am - Reply

    Dear Mo and family. I am grateful that I have been able to read your book. It inspires me, gives insight and leads me to my state of joy. What a fantastic experience. I have been allowed to know Ali and also more about myself. Thank you so much for this Moonshot!I With emotion, recognition and the feeling that you were always with me as a writer you have given me a change of life.
    Now, at the end of the book. I have to do it on my own. Through the experience I feel the power and support. For sure I’m less afraid for the future, as the moment is now. Even though in July, after 30 years, I will have my resignation due to reorganization. I feel strong and happy.
    Once again thank you. It was a kind of ‘once in a lifetime experience’ but with the conviction and insight that it is ‘learnable’.
    With so much love and best regards (from the Netherlands)

  15. Jaap de Haan February 11, 2018 at 10:38 am - Reply

    Dear family Gawdat, many thanks for all your effort. I hope, with you all, that your book, or to be more precise, your experiences so far about what happens when we are alive, will spread and attract people to take a closer look at their lifes.

    In my opinion you tell a story about a beautiful discovery of your way in handling this “One Proces”. And sorry to say, but you are not the first and the story is not new… If people grasp what the buhdda teaches, and make an effort to look for the silence inside: great things will happen. Peace will arise and suffering will disappear.

    Thank you for putting your story on paper in a clear way so people may go and look deeper in themselves to discover they are part of the designer and the design at the same time…

    _/\_ may all beings be at ease and in peace. Free from suffering and happy in their lifes,

    I salute you and your family and to all of us inhabiting earth

  16. M M De Diego January 17, 2018 at 11:56 am - Reply

    Estimado Mo,

    Te mando todo mi afecto. Un abrazo

    M. M. De Diego

  17. Geurt van de Glind January 15, 2018 at 7:40 pm - Reply

    Dear mr. Mo Gawdat,
    Thanks a lot for your book on happiness. As a father of three sons (27, 25, 18 years) I can hardly imagine what you and your family have gone through. It is with great respect that I read the parts in your book about your son.

    I am also deeply impressed by the way you put together several layers of knowledge (like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Mindfullness, Nonviolent Communication, Positive Psychology) in clear concepts.

    Two of our sons suffer(ed) from developmental disorders. And my brother in law died before he was fifty, due to Alcohol Use Disorder. I have been working throughout my life in the field of mental health and addiction. It is these experiences that make me think: your moonshot on reaching 10 million people will succeed, no doubt about it. But you might pick only ‘the low hanging fruit’. Your book is well written, using the brain, and using reasoning, but my brother in law (if he was still alive) never ever would have read it. Your book will reach out to the group that buys ‘self-help-books’ and that is able to keep up the level of concentration and endurance to read hundreds of pages, and to practice the several recommended tasks/exercises. Millions of people, who really need the content of your book, will never get access to it, or lack the tools to really work with the concepts you introduce.

    I think, to reach groups of people who desperately need the elements you describe in your book, you need further development, or maybe better: translation of the concepts in your book. Like e-learnings, animation, you-tube films. And training programs. You need different tools for education in middle-schools, and in special schools. And you need other programs for people with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, or Autism Spectrum Disorders, or Substance Use Disorders etc. I would like to discuss these issues with you and your team. Best wishes, Geurt

  18. Ufuk January 13, 2018 at 9:00 pm - Reply

    Hello Mo. Im planning to start a new YouTube channel.my channel will share the same goal as you have with your book. To make millions of people happier. Would you like to be my first guest for the interview? If its not possible, i still wish you all the best and good luck with making people happy.

  19. Dana January 13, 2018 at 1:14 am - Reply

    Open mini-letter to Mo:
    First, to get two nits out of the way for when you publish a new edition– 1) On page 99, was the intended expression “fair-trade coffee” rather than “free-trade”? Fair trade coffee or chocolate is that which has been obtained from adults working voluntarily and making a reasonable wage.
    2) On page 203, was the intended expression “proposition” and not “preposition”?
    I’m still working on how to fit my experience, of having paid almost my entire life’s savings for land the Sonoma County, California, government sold with no intention of letting the buyer use it, into your model. I hope it goes without saying that I’m not comparing material loss to your loss. What I’m looking for is a way to apply the methodology you describe. You say “If I missed a target, I looked back, learned, and tried again as if nothing was lost–because nothing really had been lost.” In this case, though, not only did I lose both my money and the chance to build my own house in Sonoma County, but–because I then couldn’t afford safe housing–in the nine years I’ve struggled to get access to my land, one of my very beloved cat brothers/best-friends/soul-mates has died and another has put on so much weight (from having to stay indoors) that it’s dangerous to his health; besides which, I’ve lost about $10k in benefits because land I can’t live on–regardless that it can’t be sold or given away–counts against me as a “resource.”
    I don’t think an afterlife depends on an entity outside ourselves. The core of our being, our “suchness,” may be related to our physical self but isn’t dependent on it for existence. We haven’t yet figured out how it functions independently, but not understanding electron flow doesn’t keep a four-year-old from using a light switch successfully.
    Your ideas match my speculation as to why I had the most miserable experience of my entire life, the kidnapping of my cat sister and the three-year search for her, at the end of which time I knew her liver disease had killed her slowly and painfully. What I finally came up with is that, since she appeared to be a boddhisattva, maybe she and I agreed before these incarnations that, if I spaced out on my political work to create world-wide material sufficiency, she would do something to get me back on track. It sure worked! I’ve become a 100% committed socialist, since I think capitalism produces poverty.
    Thank you so much for your good work; I often lie sit with my two cat brothers and say, “Thank you for making me the luckiest human on Earth.”

  20. Laila Ghattas January 11, 2018 at 3:06 pm - Reply

    Thank you Mo.
    Especially for the gifts in your articulation of ‘committed acceptance’.
    After watching videos of your lectures, interviews and listening to your audio book, a beautiful reframing of my life emerged.
    I wrote this story in which I give you credit for the inspiration and clarity, and hope it will send further ripples out to the billion…
    http://aziza.ca/articleWithOrWithoutYouMom.htm
    Thank you so much,
    Laila Ghattas

  21. Ufuk January 9, 2018 at 8:28 pm - Reply

    Hello, i have a question about finding happiness, hope you will help me finding the answer to it.

  22. Eric Sanders January 8, 2018 at 5:24 pm - Reply

    To,Mo Gawdat
    My name is Eric Sanders and I lost my son Eric R Sanders on August 13th 2015- I can truly relate regarding a death of losing a beautiful son. My son and I at the time only lived for the positive and loving side of life. Since he has passed I’m still happy for those that can have happiness. Smiling is easy and laughing at a joke or two is easy but their is a reality of life and that’s the LOVE
    a parent has for a child. Happiness is what most of us grieving parent will mask on the outside but, the high level of LOVE we have with the child we lost is the inner sorrows we truly battle with. Being a grieving father is a topic this world may miss because a man isn’t suppose to break. Well I’m a grieving father like you so I know in understand. Peace Blessing and Love always

  23. Nancy Joy Chapman January 7, 2018 at 4:00 am - Reply

    Dear Mo,
    First, may I say I am so sorry for your loss. Yet in the same breath, I am so happy for you as you are blessed to have the privilege of being the father, best friend and apprentice of Ali. How much you would have missed without any knowledge of it had you not had Ali for 21 1/2 years.
    I believe he is enjoying your fun and growth as you follow his encouragement. I believe he is watching your every move and delighting and reveling in it.
    I am grateful to Ali for what you have given me. I smile as I think of him though I never had the pleasure of meeting him.
    A dear friend sent me the You Tube of your talk in the Netherlands on Dec. 17. It so impressed me I looked immediately for more.
    I have been delighted with what I heard. I have listened to at least 20 hours of your talks on You Tube. Am on my second round of your talks to the Stanford students.
    I got tears in my eyes as while Face timing as I told my son and daughter in law about your book today and how impressed I am. Played it off at that moment as hormonal change. Then I messaged them and wrote,”Believe it or not these tears are due to feeling overwhelmed with gratitude for all I have and all there is.”
    My middle name is Joy. I had no ‘need’ for your book yet have delighted in all you had to share. Just late this afternoon I shared it with 5 people.
    Your website was down for maintenance when I tried to increase the count by one but I will try again.
    In my life there are 9 people (that I can think of at this moment) that I thought I would really like to meet even if all I got was 60 seconds with them to tell them how much I appreciate them and the way they have/are making a difference; Barack Obama and Michelle, Nelson Mandela, Oprah Winfrey, Esther and Jerry Hicks, Wayne Dyer, Alberto Villoldo and Don Minguel Ruiz. Funny, my list kept growing as I pondered it. Kept having to change the number. You went on my short list. See, Ali, just now went on my list too; the number changed again. I know he would have enjoyed knowing my son while in a physical body who I feel the same about as I you feel about your Ali.
    I know you will succeed in your goal and Ali’s name will live forever and he will continue to glow with delight as he enjoyes following his Dads path on this earth.
    With great appreciation and joy for the person you choose to be who inspires greatness.
    Nancy Joy
    P.S. will definitely get your book when Stateside.

  24. BM January 6, 2018 at 5:51 am - Reply

    Dear Mo,

    I can’t explain how amazing your words have been for me. I feel as though this knowledge lived somewhere inside of me because it sparked as soon as I read the words as if someone had shaken this 21st century sulking right out of me. I have lived a blessed life, I’m 31 happily married with a healthy 3 year old daughter. I have a close relationship with my parents, sisters, brother. I have moved and lived in many different countries in my life and I have been stuck in constantly comparing my present situation to one I perceived to be better in the past. Often very shallow, like better weather in a previous city or nicer architecture. It sounds incredibly shallow but this has actually caused serious depression. Thank you so much Mo for helping me make the voice shut the duck up and work towards strengthening my control over my perspective. Thank you Ali for bringing this peace within me and spreading joy.

    With love from Canada!

  25. sicebile January 5, 2018 at 3:08 pm - Reply

    Thank you so much for the work you’re doing Mo. I’m trying to figure out how one can go about reconciling happiness and productivity. In the past three years after a few traumatic events, I’ve done a fair amount of reading on happiness and how gratitude, stillness and living in the moment contribute to happiness. in your talk at Google (I’m South African so I don’t know which city you were in) you said eliminating the 6 grand illusions, recognising the 7 defects and ultimately seeing the 5 grand truths helps us see the true reality of things and ultimately leads to productivity “the best among us are the ones who see things for truly what they are and make decisions based on that, not what we think the truth is but rather what the truth really is” you said (I’m paraphrasing) this made a great impressiin on me and as a fairly pragmatic guy I feel there’s great merit to being happy as a competetive advantage as well. However I still haven’t quite figured out how in a practical day to day way one can use happiness as the anchor or core for driving forward productivity without falling too much into the trap of chasing what is material at the expense of happiness or vice versa, because it is possible to live under a bridge and be happy if one simply identifies the 675 theory and lives by it but in the actuall world where we have responsibilities to other people as well it would be irresponsible to abdicate all material pursuits. Your thoughts?

  26. Marco Huiskamp December 29, 2017 at 5:53 am - Reply

    Dear Mr. Gawdat,

    You passed “just like that”, in a program on Dutch TV.
    Your story is my story, but you have gone the way, while I was still looking for a way in which I could use “my story” to help people.

    The short interview, in the program RTL late night, immediately made me decide to purchase your book. I read this book in a few days and I have not only read about Ali and the formula for happiness, I also read about my daughter Monica and son Maarten. Your words, both spoken and written, are mine.
    I want to “use” what has happened to me to help others. That a happy life is possible, even after the forced farewell.

    My story; On March 26, 1992 my daughter Monica was born, but my wife and I were suddenly confronted with her death on 01 april 1997. After a period of grief and sadness, our son Maarten was born on 30 April 1996, Maarten became ill after a few days and died on 24 May.
    Now, so many years later, I finally “created” the peace and happiness. Happiness has been in me all this time, just for the taking. I have not (want to) see it all those years.
    I have let myself suffer all those years.

    Until 2 years ago the revelation occurred. The happiness formula!

    If you ever visit the Netherlands again, I would like to meet you.

    With love,
    Marco Huiskamp

  27. Kris Kozak December 28, 2017 at 3:57 am - Reply

    Dear Mo,

    I deeply appreciate what you are doing, and can relate to your story. I lost my daughter just before her 18th birthday. 4 year later, after the years of grief and suffering, I’ve experienced what it’s commonly known as an enlightenment, or the awakening. Or, to put in simply words that came to me at the time: Everything that I believed to be true, turned out to be a lie. That was in 2006. Ever since I’ve been on a journey of self-discovery… or to be more precise… the journey of making sense of the experience I’ve had, and how to live an earthly life with that knowing.
    And it is almost funny that the teacher you so highly respect, Eckhart Tolle, was the very man whose lectures I’ve happened to come across saved me from dismissing my experiences as “hallucinations” and declaring myself as probably “insane” :)))
    Anyway,… I’m impressed with your grasp of things, and with your work of bringing this understanding to the mainstream.
    If I may offer a few suggestions beyond Eckhart Tolle:
    1. Byron Katie and her WORK. Endorsed by Eckhart Tolle as a practical approach to his teachings.
    2. Rupert Spira… who in my personal opinion, is the clearest, most concise “spiritual teacher” right now on the planet.

    With Love and Gratitude

    Kris

    And the non-dualistic teache

  28. Margot Stokvis December 25, 2017 at 5:35 pm - Reply

    Dear Mo, I like to suggest a subtitle: a great push to make you grow as a human being. Thks so much for writing it and make us all profit from your ” enormous bucket of collected knowledge”.

  29. AM December 22, 2017 at 3:30 pm - Reply

    Hi Mo. I enjoyed reading your book very much. But there’s something I’d like to mention regarding the intelligent design discussion, something that I’m struggling with myself for quite some time now though I’m starting to lean on the existence of one. I get the argument of throwing letters up in the air and receiving a copy of the War and Peace down here. I just don’t think this is the right argument for one reason – you’re considering the probability of receiving an end product of your own choice, right? The war and peace book in this case, or whatever title. I believe this is wrong. The evolution didn’t progress with an end product in mind, right? It was ‘whatever…whenever’. Plus, not the whole book was written in one day- every new chapter built on the previous, right? Where am I wrong?

  30. V. Grun December 20, 2017 at 6:45 am - Reply

    Dear Mo, generally I agree to your shared way to find happiness. There’s one thing I feel completely different by myself: whenever I am happy, my mind is exploding and the contrary of being quiet.
    The first time I could ever feel that and from then on define happiness to myself has been ten years ago. After two years staying in hospital with my toddler daughter suffering from a tumor in her spine, after months of chemotherapy and surgeries, I could take her once outside in the hospital‘s garden. I held her in my arms, and my bare feet were touching the warm and humid grass – and I felt so overwhelmingly happy, that my mind was giving me fireworks.
    So I feel yes, you can work for your happiness, but the best feeling is to be overwhelmed by it, by the perfect moment dancing in your mind, in your soul. And never forget that this can also happen when sorrow is everywhere in you.
    Best regards

  31. Moris December 19, 2017 at 1:27 am - Reply

    Dear Mo
    I have just listened to your Interview (Lewis Howes) and am deeply impressed!
    I have read, listened and watched many things about happiness so far,
    yet I have rarely come across anybody who could phrase it all so well.
    Thank you very much for this contribution!

  32. Georgiann Chapman December 16, 2017 at 1:55 pm - Reply

    Hello Mo, i was lucky to see your posting on channel 4. I believe in everything you said and have written a fable that I would love to see in every home and school. It is everything you talk about. i would love to share it with you. The UN has an interest in it as a Pathway To Peace. Thank you, Georgie

  33. Michael Sälzer December 10, 2017 at 11:50 am - Reply

    Dear Mo, yesterday I bought your book. Today I only read the amazing introduction; the 14 pages are so exiting and interesting. I am looking forward to read your book at X-mas holidays. Like you I am very interesting in learning and reading. I suppose your book is one of the most important books in my personal life. I would buy two books for my sons Morten (20) and Mads (17). They will learn your lessons and the wonderful character from Ali! Of course I will buy a book for my wonderful wife Merete (51), who is dreaming about opening her little danish bakery in Germany. I will buy your book for my sister Petra, who is still suffering from our Dad`s death five years ago. Finally I will buy a book to my colleague Jörg, who lost his 20 year old son after suicide in this summer.
    I am (52) the luckiest man on earth: I have a wonderful family, I love my job as a wealth manager at Deutsche Bank and are fascinated about finance, politics, history and management literature. I like sports and travelling (Scandinavium, espacially Danmark – my wife`s home country, New England and Michigan).
    Here is one recommandation for your Happiness research: the danisch movement is called “Hygge”, as you know the danes are among the luckiest people in the world…
    Sorry for my my bad english; I read that you speak german. After reading your book I will give you a feedback in german. I have to take a very important decision at January, concerning my job at Deutsche Bank. So I will learn from your existing book and will take my decision after reading this wonderful book… Thank you so much in advance, Mo! Thank your for your Moonshot for ALI! Best wishes from Cologne, Germany. With your book, this time will be a very special X-MAS

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